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I'm screwed. As many of you know I just survived a month long marathon visit with my in-laws for all of October. I've had about a 2 week break and then we all meet in Mexico for Thanksgiving. I thought it would be nice to do Thanksgiving in Mexico (with his family) because we're doing Christmas with my family in Arizona. This was also planned before I knew his mom would be here for all of October. Yeah. I figured, why not! I can handle a week of group time, right? Well, apparently they are all flying back here with us (uncle, aunt, sister, mother-in-law) for varying length visits, but my mother-in-law will be here until January 8th! I just spent ALL OF OCTOBER and before that all of JULY she was here. She's a nice woman but when she's here it is like something going on every day where I'm expected to be, or bring my son so they can spend time with him. I left my job to care full time for my son and now I feel like this is my new job. Which I hate. A lot. It isn't that they are bad people it is just that I have my own life and my own friends and intersts and I'm tired of putting all of that aside to constantly juggle a calendar where I see them way too often to even have anything good to talk about. I feel like a prisoner! I was so relieved when October ended because I could stop stressing out and now I just want to start bawling because I can't believe I'm set to spend a week solid with them right before they come here for over a month. We've already spent thousands on the trip so cancelling it is not happening. I'm just so extremely depressed about this.
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My sister has the same problem. They know she stays at home with the kids, and they come in from Calgary to stay for weeks on end. I hate to say this but finally after 14 years she is finally just living her own life while they stay with her. She is not catering to their every need anymore like she used to. I am sure you have discussed this with your hubby; what has his reaction been??
08 nov 07 por membro: momma_bears
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fortunately they don't actually stay with us at our home, but I am still expected to do stuff with them more frequently during the week than I feel is sustainable. For example, she was here all of October and I probably spent "significant" time with them 23 out of 30 days. That is waaaaaayyyy to much for me. I know I can blow them off but not without consequences. Mostly I just had being put in the position of being expected (by them) to completely juggle everything around to be able to see them all the time as if the visit is an exception--I'd say anyone who is here over 50% of the year is not a "visitor" but a partial resident! I just get tired of the "while mom is visiting" card -- as if she doesn't visit all the damn time. And I feel like an idiot for suggesting a "family" vacation before I realized she was going to be here for almost 3 months straight! Dumb Dumb Dumb.
08 nov 07 por membro: CalorieKiller
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I wish I had some encouraging words, but I don't other than trying to find some way to break away from them. I know you don't want to hurt them. I feel the same way about my mother and father in law, they live close and like the other day, I took my 3 year old over b/c she wanted to see him and it cost me the whole day! When she calls ... it's her talking for hours on end and me saying about a whole 3 words, LOL. I also kind of feel you on the baby part.. when I had my son, my mother in law acted like she didn't even want to give me my own child back... like right after I had him.. she would try to give the baby to my husband and said I was too "weak" from just having him to hold him. I know she "meant" well but good grief, I was thinking "Woman, gimme my baby!" lol. Maybe you will come up w/ a plan that will give you a little more space without hurting anyone in the process. On your vacation, what if you let them watch the little one for a couple of hours and you and the hubby go out to dinner alone and spend some quality time together?!? Just a thought, you may not want to leave him and I understand that too.
09 nov 07 por membro: lorik
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