Jornal de callmesuzie, 07 mai 19

Learning how to treat yourself well, with kindness and compassion, can be very hard but it's never impossible.  

Thank you for your kind words . Also thanks for the support.  

You can do it Suzie. I had 20 years of hell until I finally found the courage to show him the door. Same thing, a bullying control freak who made me feel worthless and I did a lot of comfort eating. I've been married 2nd time around for 20 years and things are totally different. Like you say, lose weight for you and you will love and respect yourself. There's nothing like weight loss, a new wardrobe, hairdo etc to make you feel good about yourself. You never know, maybe you will find the courage to do something about your life like I did. You are never too old!! Good luck on your journey x 

Good on you Suzie, if things get tough you can always picture is face, when he realises what he has lost. Good luck, you will have everyone's support on here 🍀x 

Just joined and wanted to say good for you Suzie, never settle for second best you show him and this will empower you to be the best by learning to love yourself 

I'd leave..lived like that once.. life's great now..met a lovely man..I'm still overweight & trying to loose it together.. 

Suzie, that's sounds like a lot - but, no doubt you will get there, wherever there is. Best wishes to you! 

Losing weight will be your greatest revenge Suzie! Not only will you make him feel inferior and unattractive but YOU will have regained your confidence and physical attraction - and will no doubt attract admiration from someone more worthy of your love. 

Suzie, wishing you all the best, but there is a huge mess in your plan, which might lead you into even worse condition. losing weight is great - but for your health first of all, not to fit someone's standards of sexuality or the more revenge. What will be with your self-esteem, if you reach the result, but your husband won't care about that? you are measuring yourself through his eyes instead of really knowing who you are. sorry my rusty English, I'm just 1 year in UK. Originally came from Russia. And you know what? I'm really inspired with seeing so many couples here, when girls are plus-size. in Russia they have much much much worse chances, believe me. So i wish you to be strong and learn to love yourself 🌼 and with that amazing feeling to love your body and bring to it more joy of movement and healthy food. But please don't make your confidence depend just on your shape. Self-esteem will rise first if you find the way of being independent from toxic people and that will give you wings to make your life all over again. ah, and don't blame yourself, obedience is a disease, sometimes only dietitian doctor can help, and anyway - what's done it's done. Now just keep the faith, you can change your life.  

All the best luck in the world to you Suzie, sounds like you've been through an awful lot in your life, time to shine and be happy :)  

Lose the weight for yourself Suzie, not for an arrogant pig that doesn't care whether you do or you don't (you need to find a true soul mate) ...... your relationship won't work on that basis alone just to get back at him and hope he may repent...... it's such a toxic situation, no wonder you can't commit to a diet for long period...... You must be so sad and feel unloved and rejected......I wish you well and good Luck on your Quest  

Stay strong lovely, we all here to help and give motivation, You can do it. 💪  

Thank you everyone for your brilliant words and support . I will take them all on board and remember them all . Such powerful words of what I call wisdom . And I will do this , for the right reason . That is for ME ... 

Remember you can only change yourself and not the abuser you live with 

I agree with big fat pic, do it for you, anyone who loves you will see how hard you’re trying and encourage and spur you on with good comments, everyone on this site loves when other people succeed and the loves returns 

good luck Suzie and hope you achieve your goals.but do this for you first. I've been there got t-shirt.now I have a lovely man who I've been with for a few years who loves me no matter what I look like. but do this for you.x 

good luck suzie, ur right, do it for you, Ive allowed myself to get big, never bn this heavy, my own fault, think ill join here n write a wee blog as well, Im rooting for you, you can d this xx 

Suzie, I feel for you I've been there and walked away with nothing. If you stay you need strength and friends. Make yourself feel good, weight lose if it's to make you feel good and start to put extra you time in place. I used to get dressed up, do the full make up and hair and go window shopping or sit in the park for hours just to get away. I always went home bright and cheery, he would start the questioning but I would stay "just out and about,why do you have a problem". I could see he did but sometimes you just need to do things that make you smile ( if not happy). Be strong xx 

Thank you every one for your kind words . I promise I will take them on board & thank you for the support. Xx